Tuesday, January 26, 2010

The awkward question

Hottie lent me a book to read recently, called "The 4-Hour Work Week". At the end of each chapter, is a "Comfort Challenge" for readers to complete. The one which keeps me entertained at the moment is:
Get Phone Numbers (2 Days)
Being sure to maintain eye contact, ask for the phone numbers of at least two (the more you attempt, the less stressful it will be) attractive members of the opposite sex on each day... Remember that the real goal is not to get numbers, but to get over the fear of asking, so the outcome is unimportant.


I'll be honest, in all my life, I can only remember two occasions which I've ever asked for a guy's number. The first time was when I met a pretty cool clubber at an Above & Beyond gig in Glasgow :) We actually kept in touch for awhile and nerdily, exchanged fave tracks of our week *grin* The second time was when I met Whirlwind, and well, you know how that went. Trust me when I say being a girl doesn't make
asking for someone's number any easier. I feel even sorrier for guys as based on a survey I've done amongst friends, girls rarely ever ask for numbers!

Which brings me to my point of "Nice guys finish last". I just want to be clear, I'm NOT bagging out nice guys. I'm all for nice guys! It's just that I've heard a lot of complaints from my nice guy friends that they never get the girl! I'm saying it's because, judging by all the nice guys I'm friends with, it's totally against their nature to approach a girl, begin a conversation and ask for a number. If you're asking the question why do girls always end up with bad guys, it's because bad guys are typically arrogant and confident enough to make the move while the nice guys are standing against the wall.

Or from Hottie's point of view, maybe I'm just the type of girl that nice guys don't want to talk to :( *lol*

Maybe it's harsh to condemn nice guys to last place. Aives corrected me the other day, "Nice guys don't finish last, they just finish s..l..o..w." *grin*

Anyways, if you're looking for a way to amuse yourself, try completing the "Comfort Challenge" above. When I told AA about it, she insisted I try it out infront of her. It took me 3 beers and a margarita to build up enough Dutch courage to move my butt out of my seat and plonk it down opposite a male diner of AA's picking. When I was talking to Wazzz about it, it took me an old fashioned, a mojito, a vespa and a daiquiri (that's at least 7 shots) before I could open my mouth to the cute bartender :)

Wazzz pretending to be cute bartender:

My line? It's pretty lame *grin*
"If I ask you for your number, would you give me a real one or a fake one?"
:: Guy with a fiancee - Gave me his real number *lol*
:: 2 guys, both with gfs - Didn't give me a number at all!

I was quite impressed that all three immediately responded with their current relationship status. At the very least, I got happily trashed and I probably made three guys pretty happy that day :)

Wazzz: "What do you want?"
Me: "Nothing with Sambuca in it... *gag*"
*Wazz orders drinks*
Me: "What's that??"
Bartender: "It's a Baby Guinness. It's Sambuca topped with Baileys."
*Me smacks Wazzz*


Kev said...

I pay that line! Will have to try it out one day :)

I have now moved onto the "cheers first, dance second, talk third" approach

Beckster said...

Aives has a good point. Too bad we're in an era of instant gratification.

You have chops Reenie! I don't think I've ever asked a guy for their number. After this post, I'm taking the challenge ON. We can swap stories when you get here.

Oh and Kev, let's not pretend your motto is anything except "Grind, grind and grind" :)

Anonymous said...

If you're having a tipple before you ask for the numbers, just how far out of your comfort zone have you moved?
Also, you're not supposed to ask directly for the phone number, did your momma never teach you? know what you want and know how to ask for it, but unless invited to, never come straight out and ask for it - it's tough being a girl

Anonymous said...

I'm going to miss you so much, forgot to tell you in the last comment, in case you're scratching your head wondering who's commenting on your ramblings, Mr Darcy and myself think you're wonderful. I think you're lame for lovin' me and leaving me but absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say and so i'm looking forward to seeing you again after you take this time to regroup. Growth is always tough, always challenging, just remember that "what lies behind us and what lies before are tiny compared to what lies within us" (William Morrow) and what lies within you is one of the kindest and bravest hearts i've had the pleasure of calling a close friend. I'm super excited to meet you again and enjoy all those cool things we never get round to doing such as writing our great novels, re-upholstering furniture and all those other things we've not thought of doing yet. Look after yourself, keep asking all the tough questions and be patient my little Aussie friend, your best is yet to come (and you know how i'm always correct). xxx

millimilli said...

Baby Guiness = slippery nipple?